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Keeping it Simple

25 Sep

Do you ever have a day when your mind just won’t settle in one place?   Your thoughts are  jumping from one place to another, like a naughty puppy, and your  head feels busy.  This can be very unsettling; we find it difficult to focus, sometimes we may have trouble sleeping and often we just don’t know where to start.

I often find this when I’m working with clients; they can come to me with a whole lot of information which is so helpful for me to hear, but can feel overwhelming for them.   So, what I do is start with something simple.  We don’t need to deal with everything right now, we don’t have to know exactly where we’re going and we don’t have to make any life-changing decisions in the next ten minutes.  Pick one thing to focus on and do it.

As an example, with my weight loss clients I want to hear a full history of their experience to date, what their relationship with food is like, what they have tried in the past and what losing weight will mean to them.  However, this takes time and I understand that it can feel muddled and confusing for my client.  Because of this, at the end of our first session I give them something simple to focus on for the next week; I give them a food diary to keep, not for me to check up on what they’re eating (I’m not into checking up on people!), but for them to notice how they’re feeling when they’re wanting to eat – are they sad, stressed, bored, angry?  This information will help us to identify any emotional triggers for eating and once we recognise these, we can work with them.

I find that having this simple tool to focus on helps my clients to move forwards.   The information out there relating to weight loss can be overpowering so people end up doing nothing because they can’t choose what’s best for them.  So, for this next week why not pick one helpful thing to do and do it?  It’s much easier to focus on one thing than lots.  Keep it simple and you’ll find it much easier to maintain.

What are you going to choose to focus on?  I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Nurture

10 Sep

I am currently putting together a new weight loss program which will enable me to work with clients online and I have spent a lot of time thinking about what the focus of the plan will be.  One word that I kept coming back to was ‘nurture’.  When I looked up the definition of this word, I was struck by the fact that it means both ‘to nourish’ and also ‘to grow and develop’.  Both of these ideas are key to the weight loss work I do with my clients.

My aim is to help clients find healthy ways to nourish themselves, both in terms of food and other means, for example, finding an activity they love or taking more time just for them.   During the course of our work together, my clients tend to naturally find that they grow and develop, discovering what their unconscious needs and motivations are.  I want the weight loss experience to be a nurturing process, rather than feeling deprived, and because I set out with this intention my clients can actually enjoy losing weight!

So, how can we use this idea of ‘nurture’ in our everyday lives?  Well I have made a decision to focus on nurturing myself in a different way every day.  Some days this may be a yoga class or a massage, other days it may simply be taking some time out in the garden or sitting down with cup of tea.   Whatever you choose to do, the important thing is to approach it with the intention of nurturing yourself.  Once you set this intention, even if what you choose is something you do every day, it will feel different.

Why not start today and find ways to nurture yourself?  I’d love to hear your experience, so let me know what you choose to do.

Olympic Inspirations

2 Aug

I’m sure many of you have been watching the Olympics over the past few days and I have been struck by the dedication, motivation and also the creative thinking of many of the athletes involved.  It’s prompted me to think about ways in which we can use these qualities in our lives to make the changes we want to.

Ok, so most of us don’t see ourselves as elite athletes, but we can still incorporate aspects of what they do in our everyday lives .   Just by watching our Olympic heroes pushing themselves to their limits, we are making a real difference to our mindsets.

A friend of mine told me that he was in the gym on the cross-trainer when watching Bradley Wiggins take gold in the cycling time trial.  He is a regular gym-goer and was surprised that as he watched Bradley winning the race, he was able to work at a harder level on the cross-trainer, for a longer period of time, without even thinking about it.  Usually this would feel like really hard work, but he was unconsciously inspired to do more.

It doesn’t matter what we want to achieve, whether it is getting fitter, eating more healthily, making a change at work or having better relationships, watching these amazing athletes shows us that anything is possible.    A wonderful example of this is Helen Glover, who only took up rowing four years ago and is now an Olympic gold medallist.  What would you like to achieve in the next four years if anything was possible?  What small step can you take towards that achievement today?  Why not go and do it now?

I’d love to hear about what you’ve been inspired to do….and if you would like some support on your journey, why not get in touch and find out how I can help you?

Why It Helps to Take ACTION

27 Jun

Sometimes we just know we want to make a change.  It’s that niggling thought at the back of your mind, an uncomfortable feeling in your stomach – something needs to be different.  Maybe we want to lose some weight, give up smoking, let go of something from the past or work towards a life change.  It’s easy to spend a lot of time thinking about the changes we want to make.  Reflection is great and I encourage all of my clients to devote some space to thinking about what they want and how things will be different when they get that.  However, it’s important to combine this with taking ACTION.

When we spend too much time thinking, it can be difficult to see a way forward.  We can feel stuck and demotivated and that’s not a good place to be!   Just  taking one small action can change this mindset; we start to feel more empowered and in control.  I often find this with clients who have been struggling with something for a long time; as soon as they make the decision to come and work with me, they immediately feel more positive.  They’ve committed to take some action and that feels good!

So, what can you do today to move forward?   Let me know what action you are taking and if you would like some support, why not book a free 30 minute consultation and find out how I can help?

The Beauty of Paying Attention

12 Jun

I am reading Julia Cameron’s wonderful book The Artist’s Way at the moment and one of the things she talks about very eloquently is the value of paying attention to what’s around you.

Often we can be rushing around from one thing to the next, barely noticing the people, places and natural beauty that surrounds us.   This can result in feeling stressed and disconnected, damaging  relationships and our own well-being.  If we can learn to slow down, even occasionally, and pay attention to what is happening around us right now, it can be immensely healing.  Life will automatically feel more manageable and you will gain a sense of perspective.

We can often miss so much as we simply don’t take the time to notice.  Recently I watched the television programme Britain in a Day which was made up from snippets of film that a range of different people captured, showing what they did on a particular day.  Much of this was the ‘ordinary’ stuff that we all do all the time, however, this ordinary-ness was what made it funny, moving and quite remarkable.

It’s easy to dismiss the people and things that we see all the time as  boring and not worthy of our attention, but if we just take the time to notice we might realise that we’re surrounded by beauty.  Why not try paying attention right now and let me know how you get on?

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