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Have you got the New Year Blues?

7 Jan

Crossroad on HillAs we move into a new year, I wonder how you are feeling?  It seems that everywhere on TV, in magazines and newspapers, we are being encouraged to make changes, feel positive and have our lives mapped out for the whole of 2014.  January can feel quite pressurised with all this talk of resolutions and ‘New Year, New You’.

I remember how I felt just five years ago when I was in a job I didn’t enjoy and had just gone back to work.  I felt heavy and, although I knew I didn’t want to carry on doing something I disliked, I wasn’t sure how to move forwards.  Rather than feeling positive and excited about the year ahead, I was totally confused!

I wonder if you feel the same?  Perhaps you are in a job you dislike?  Maybe you want to improve your health, but you’re not sure how?  Perhaps you just feel there is something not quite right in your life and you’re not sure exactly what it is?

In my case, back in January 2009, I had the spark of an idea – to retrain as a hypnotherapist.  I allowed that spark to grow and took action which ended up transforming my life in many ways.  I can’t say it was easy, but once I gained some clarity, I could see the path I wanted to take and I kept moving along it.

If you have even the smallest idea that you want to change paths, if you are fed-up with being where you are right now, then why don’t we have a chat?

I am offering free 45- minute discovery sessions this January – a chance to gently explore any changes you might want to make and find a way forward.   These sessions can be arranged either over the phone or at my therapy room in Southampton, whatever is easiest for you.  Contact me now if you would like to arrange one.

And remember, you don’t have to have your life planned out just because it’s January!  Change can happen at any time.

Lessons from 2013

10 Dec

2013As we approach the end of 2013, it’s a good time to reflect on how the year has been.  What has gone well?  What has been challenging?  What have you learned?  How have you grown?  What do you want to leave behind and what do you want to take forward into 2014.

For me, this has been a year of growth, both personally and in terms of my business and I wanted to share some of the lessons I have learned with you.

1) Set Big Goals (and don’t beat yourself up if you don’t reach them!)

This has been a key lesson for me.   Part of me likes to go with the flow and another part likes to have a clear idea of what I am moving towards and this year, I have learned that I can do both.

At the beginning of 2013, I thought about what I would like to achieve during the year and, although it was scary, I set myself some BIG goals.     Some of things I aimed for, I have achieved (more of that below), but some I haven’t.  At times I felt stressed and frustrated that I wasn’t getting quite getting to where I wanted to be.  I looked at other people and thought, ‘How come they seem to be doing what I want to do?’

As I moved into the second part of the year, I started to be easier on myself.  I realised that by setting myself big goals, I have stretched myself, I’ve taken action and although I haven’t achieved everything I wanted to, I’ve come a long way.

So, I take time now to appreciate my successes this year and look forward to setting some new BIG goals for 2014.  How about doing the same?

2) Trust the Process

This is an interesting one.  As I mentioned above, I set myself some big goals for 2013 and to tell you the truth, I didn’t truly believe I would achieve some of them!  When I set two of them in particular, in the back of my mind, I was thinking, ‘Not sure how I’m going to do that!’

The two goals that I’m talking about were to run a retreat and to have an article published in Natural Health magazine.  Even though I had no idea how I would reach them, I chose to trust the process.  I wrote them down and started to think about small steps I could take towards them.  I took action that moved me closer to my goals, running a day’s workshop as part of preparing for how a retreat would be and writing articles for an online magazine.

I still didn’t have a clue how I would actually achieve these two goals, but I trusted that it would happen.  And do you know what, it did!  As I kept taking small steps, moving forward, opportunities presented themselves to me, the right people appeared to help me and I ended up achieving both of these wonderfully exciting goals by the end of the year.

So, even if you feel a goal is out of reach, write it down.  Think about small steps, small actions, you could take to move you towards your dream and trust that it will happen.

3) Take advice and listen to your heart.

This year I have worked with various mentors, coaches and teachers, both online and in person.  I’ve been like a sponge soaking up information!  I love learning new stuff and I get excited about developing.

But at times I felt overwhelmed with everything I was hearing.  Sometimes what other people were recommending or suggesting just didn’t feel right for me, it didn’t fit.   So, these are the times I decided to sit back, to get quiet and listen to what my heart was saying.   And what I learned is that my heart generally knows best!

It’s great to ask for advice, to read books, to work with people who are specialists in their area.  But whatever you learn, whatever advice you receive, always make time to check-in with yourself and see whether it’s right for you.  You are unique and you will have your own special way of doing things.  Listen to your intuition and hear what your heart is saying.  You are the expert on YOU!

So, what have your learned in 2013?  What are you choosing to take forward with you into the New Year?  I’d love to hear what you think and if you would like some help with achieving your goals in 2014, get in touch and let’s think BIG.

A Personal View

11 Nov

Nurture ImageI was speaking to a client the other day about those precious moments of peace we sometimes have; those moments when we feel fully present and we allow ourselves to ‘just be’.  She had experienced one such time recently and was disappointed in herself that it had only lasted for a few minutes before the usual chaos of life had descended.

I pointed out that maybe it’s this very chaos and busy-ness that enables us to appreciate those moments of peace.  We can’t experience one without the other.

This can apply to all areas of our lives.  We need to experience a range of emotions and situations to appreciate the other end of the spectrum.

In order to feel confident, we must sometimes feel insecure.

In order to feel joy, we must sometimes feel sad.

In order to feel motivated, we must sometimes feel lethargic.

In order to feel healthy, we must sometimes feel sick.

In order to feel loved, we must sometimes feel lonely.

So, embrace all of your emotions,  the full range of your experience.  This is what makes life whole.

This is what makes YOU whole.

What do you think about this?  Can you think of a time you’ve been able to appreciate a situation or feeling because you’ve experienced the complete opposite?  Please do comment below and let me know.

Recommended Inspiration for You!

17 Oct

I love reading and I spend a fair amount of time checking out inspirational books and blogs (in fact, my husband says that he has never known someone read so much!)  The truth is I was always a real bookworm when I was a child and my favourite thing was to lose myself in a good read.  Now, I’m very lucky as many of the books I choose to read help me with the work I do – it’s a win-win!

A few weeks ago, one of my clients asked me to recommend some books or blogs that might help her and as I replied to her email, I thought, ‘I should put this in a blog’.   So, here it is – just a few of my go-to reads:


A Return to Love’ by Marianne Williamson  This book is just beautiful.   For me, it’s all about loving and accepting yourself for what you are.  If you are feeling lost in some way, then please read this book.  There are so many quotes I could share, but here is my favourite:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.’

‘Succulent Wild Woman’ by SARK   This book is obviously aimed at women (that’s why it appeals to me!)  It’s about being your joyful, creative, authentic self and I love it.

‘Sassy’ by Lisa Clark   Another one aimed at the ladies (what can I say?  I love wonderful women writers.)  This is a truly uplifting book, about being the best, most confident version of yourself (exactly what I want to do for my clients).

‘The Artist’s Way’ by Julia Cameron  This is a 12-week program of self-discovery, helping you to connect with your creativity.  You absolutely do not have to be an ‘artist’ to enjoy and benefit from this book.  There are some wonderful practices in the program and my favourite is ‘morning pages’.  Highly recommended.

‘Constant Craving’ by Doreen Virtue  This is a great book if you struggle with cravings and emotional eating.  Doreen Virtue’s idea is that cravings for different foods correspond to specific emotional concerns.  When you become aware of this, you can work with the underlying emotional issue.  This very much ties in with the weight loss work I do with my clients.

Blogs  Leo Babauta’s wonderful blog about living more simply, more mindfully.  It’s full of inspiration for all areas of your life.  I don’t read many blogs regularly, but I ALWAYS open this one when it arrives in my inbox. Again, this is one blog that I always read.  Leonie writes from the heart about creativity, life and business.  She’s cooky, quirky and a breath of fresh air.

Notes from the Universe  This is not a blog as such, but I would recommend signing-up for these daily emails reminding you of how wonderful you are and the general magical-ness of life!

I could go on, but these are my absolute favourites.  I would love you to share any recommendations you have, so do pop them in the comments box below.  Let’s share the love!

Expand your possibilities with OCTOBER-fest

2 Oct

ExpandRecently I read that 95% of our thoughts each day are the same as the previous day and, on average, 85% of those thoughts are negative.  I have heard this fact before, but it really struck me this time.  If we are thinking pretty much the same thoughts each day, then we are going to end up making the same choices, feeling the same, staying in the same place in our lives.

The work I do always relates to some sort of change and I know that many of us feel uncomfortable with change, as our thinking gets stuck in a particular pattern.

I wanted to find a way for you to start expanding your thinking, to become more comfortable with the possibility of change.  To do this, I have come up with OCTOBER-fest (and it’s nothing to do with beer!)

Over on the Horizon Hypnotherapy Facebook page, each day during October I will be asking a different question designed to expand your sense of possibility.  Questions are a great way of getting us to think about something different.  Once we are asked a question, our powerful subconscious mind has to find an answer, so it will go on a quest to come up with one.

The questions I will be asking this October are all designed to get you thinking about what positive change you want to bring into your life, to think about what is possible and to break out of the limited thoughts we often have from day to day.

As an example, the first question is:  What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

Notice how you feel as you ask yourself that question.  Maybe you experience a sense of excitement?  What comes to mind?  Is there a project you’ve been putting off because of the fear of failure, or not being good enough? What could you do today to start taking action, a small step?  Obviously one question leads to another!

So, how do you join OCTOBER-fest?   You simply need to like the Horizon Hypnotherapy Facebook page and each day you will see the question that has been posed.  You can either answer in the comments box on Facebook or perhaps you could make October a month to start a journal and write about each question in that?

I would love to hear what you think, so please do comment on this blog post.

Here’s to expansive thinking!

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