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Have you got the New Year Blues?

7 Jan

Crossroad on HillAs we move into a new year, I wonder how you are feeling?  It seems that everywhere on TV, in magazines and newspapers, we are being encouraged to make changes, feel positive and have our lives mapped out for the whole of 2014.  January can feel quite pressurised with all this talk of resolutions and ‘New Year, New You’.

I remember how I felt just five years ago when I was in a job I didn’t enjoy and had just gone back to work.  I felt heavy and, although I knew I didn’t want to carry on doing something I disliked, I wasn’t sure how to move forwards.  Rather than feeling positive and excited about the year ahead, I was totally confused!

I wonder if you feel the same?  Perhaps you are in a job you dislike?  Maybe you want to improve your health, but you’re not sure how?  Perhaps you just feel there is something not quite right in your life and you’re not sure exactly what it is?

In my case, back in January 2009, I had the spark of an idea – to retrain as a hypnotherapist.  I allowed that spark to grow and took action which ended up transforming my life in many ways.  I can’t say it was easy, but once I gained some clarity, I could see the path I wanted to take and I kept moving along it.

If you have even the smallest idea that you want to change paths, if you are fed-up with being where you are right now, then why don’t we have a chat?

I am offering free 45- minute discovery sessions this January – a chance to gently explore any changes you might want to make and find a way forward.   These sessions can be arranged either over the phone or at my therapy room in Southampton, whatever is easiest for you.  Contact me now if you would like to arrange one.

And remember, you don’t have to have your life planned out just because it’s January!  Change can happen at any time.

A Personal View

11 Nov

Nurture ImageI was speaking to a client the other day about those precious moments of peace we sometimes have; those moments when we feel fully present and we allow ourselves to ‘just be’.  She had experienced one such time recently and was disappointed in herself that it had only lasted for a few minutes before the usual chaos of life had descended.

I pointed out that maybe it’s this very chaos and busy-ness that enables us to appreciate those moments of peace.  We can’t experience one without the other.

This can apply to all areas of our lives.  We need to experience a range of emotions and situations to appreciate the other end of the spectrum.

In order to feel confident, we must sometimes feel insecure.

In order to feel joy, we must sometimes feel sad.

In order to feel motivated, we must sometimes feel lethargic.

In order to feel healthy, we must sometimes feel sick.

In order to feel loved, we must sometimes feel lonely.

So, embrace all of your emotions,  the full range of your experience.  This is what makes life whole.

This is what makes YOU whole.

What do you think about this?  Can you think of a time you’ve been able to appreciate a situation or feeling because you’ve experienced the complete opposite?  Please do comment below and let me know.

Recommended Inspiration for You!

17 Oct

I love reading and I spend a fair amount of time checking out inspirational books and blogs (in fact, my husband says that he has never known someone read so much!)  The truth is I was always a real bookworm when I was a child and my favourite thing was to lose myself in a good read.  Now, I’m very lucky as many of the books I choose to read help me with the work I do – it’s a win-win!

A few weeks ago, one of my clients asked me to recommend some books or blogs that might help her and as I replied to her email, I thought, ‘I should put this in a blog’.   So, here it is – just a few of my go-to reads:


A Return to Love’ by Marianne Williamson  This book is just beautiful.   For me, it’s all about loving and accepting yourself for what you are.  If you are feeling lost in some way, then please read this book.  There are so many quotes I could share, but here is my favourite:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.’

‘Succulent Wild Woman’ by SARK   This book is obviously aimed at women (that’s why it appeals to me!)  It’s about being your joyful, creative, authentic self and I love it.

‘Sassy’ by Lisa Clark   Another one aimed at the ladies (what can I say?  I love wonderful women writers.)  This is a truly uplifting book, about being the best, most confident version of yourself (exactly what I want to do for my clients).

‘The Artist’s Way’ by Julia Cameron  This is a 12-week program of self-discovery, helping you to connect with your creativity.  You absolutely do not have to be an ‘artist’ to enjoy and benefit from this book.  There are some wonderful practices in the program and my favourite is ‘morning pages’.  Highly recommended.

‘Constant Craving’ by Doreen Virtue  This is a great book if you struggle with cravings and emotional eating.  Doreen Virtue’s idea is that cravings for different foods correspond to specific emotional concerns.  When you become aware of this, you can work with the underlying emotional issue.  This very much ties in with the weight loss work I do with my clients.

Blogs  Leo Babauta’s wonderful blog about living more simply, more mindfully.  It’s full of inspiration for all areas of your life.  I don’t read many blogs regularly, but I ALWAYS open this one when it arrives in my inbox. Again, this is one blog that I always read.  Leonie writes from the heart about creativity, life and business.  She’s cooky, quirky and a breath of fresh air.

Notes from the Universe  This is not a blog as such, but I would recommend signing-up for these daily emails reminding you of how wonderful you are and the general magical-ness of life!

I could go on, but these are my absolute favourites.  I would love you to share any recommendations you have, so do pop them in the comments box below.  Let’s share the love!

Expand your possibilities with OCTOBER-fest

2 Oct

ExpandRecently I read that 95% of our thoughts each day are the same as the previous day and, on average, 85% of those thoughts are negative.  I have heard this fact before, but it really struck me this time.  If we are thinking pretty much the same thoughts each day, then we are going to end up making the same choices, feeling the same, staying in the same place in our lives.

The work I do always relates to some sort of change and I know that many of us feel uncomfortable with change, as our thinking gets stuck in a particular pattern.

I wanted to find a way for you to start expanding your thinking, to become more comfortable with the possibility of change.  To do this, I have come up with OCTOBER-fest (and it’s nothing to do with beer!)

Over on the Horizon Hypnotherapy Facebook page, each day during October I will be asking a different question designed to expand your sense of possibility.  Questions are a great way of getting us to think about something different.  Once we are asked a question, our powerful subconscious mind has to find an answer, so it will go on a quest to come up with one.

The questions I will be asking this October are all designed to get you thinking about what positive change you want to bring into your life, to think about what is possible and to break out of the limited thoughts we often have from day to day.

As an example, the first question is:  What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

Notice how you feel as you ask yourself that question.  Maybe you experience a sense of excitement?  What comes to mind?  Is there a project you’ve been putting off because of the fear of failure, or not being good enough? What could you do today to start taking action, a small step?  Obviously one question leads to another!

So, how do you join OCTOBER-fest?   You simply need to like the Horizon Hypnotherapy Facebook page and each day you will see the question that has been posed.  You can either answer in the comments box on Facebook or perhaps you could make October a month to start a journal and write about each question in that?

I would love to hear what you think, so please do comment on this blog post.

Here’s to expansive thinking!

Three Common Misconceptions About Hypnotherapy

9 Sep people come to me for hypnotherapy, they often have some anxiety about how it will be and I wonder whether perhaps you feel the same?

Maybe you have seen stage hypnotists who seem to take control of people getting them to do silly things and make fools of themselves?

Maybe you have heard stories of people going into a trance and not being able to come out?

Perhaps you have seen films where people have been hypnotised into doing things they wouldn’t dream of normally?  No wonder there can be some fear of hypnosis when it is often presented in this way!

It’s completely natural to have worries about trying something new, so I want to put your mind at rest now about some of the common misconceptions of hypnotherapy.

1) I’ll be out of control.

When you are in hypnosis, you are totally aware of what’s happening.   As a hypnotherapist, I cannot ‘make’ you do anything you don’t want to do.   That is why before we use hypnotherapy, I will spend some time making sure you are committed to the changes you want to make and exploring any unexpected benefits of staying the way you are.  Your subconscious mind has some powerful built-in safeguards and will not allow you to do something you wouldn’t ordinarily do or reveal anything that is not to your benefit.

During hypnotherapy you will be fully in control.   I am simply facilitating you in bringing your subconscious mind into alignment with your goals and dreams.

2) I can’t be hypnotised.

Clients often worry that they won’t be able to be hypnotised or that hypnotherapy won’t  work for them.   In fact, we move into a trance-like state naturally at many times during the day.   For example, if you have ever driven somewhere familiar, got to your destination and not remembered the journey, then you have experienced trance.  Similarly, when we daydream or switch off when watching TV, then we have gone into a light hypnotic trance.

Clients are often surprised about how familiar hypnosis feels to them and they worry that they are not ‘doing it right’.  The fact is that as a client, you can simply relax and allow me to guide you into hypnosis.  Your subconscious mind will do the rest.

3) Hypnotherapy will magically allow me to achieve my goals.

I’m sorry to say that this isn’t true!  Even though hypnotherapy is wonderfully effective in helping with many problems and issues, you do need to be committed to making changes.  When I work with clients, it is very much a two-way process.  I will often ask people to do ‘homework’ between sessions with the aim of giving the subconscious mind the focus and direction it needs.  I have found that it’s the clients who are most engaged in the process of working with me who get outstanding results.  So, ask yourself, ‘Do I really want to make this change and am I willing to do everything I need to do to reach my goal?’  If the answer is ‘Yes!’, then hypnotherapy will be perfect for you.

I hope this has answered some of your questions about hypnosis and how it can help you.  I know that there are many misconceptions about hypnotherapy and that is why I offer a free 30-minute consultation with any potential clients.  This is a chance to have a chat with me, ask any questions and discuss any worries you might have before committing to a session.

I am passionate about hypnotherapy and have seen wonderful results when working with clients, so if you want to find out more then get in touch today for your free consultation.

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