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Have you got the New Year Blues?

7 Jan

Crossroad on HillAs we move into a new year, I wonder how you are feeling?  It seems that everywhere on TV, in magazines and newspapers, we are being encouraged to make changes, feel positive and have our lives mapped out for the whole of 2014.  January can feel quite pressurised with all this talk of resolutions and ‘New Year, New You’.

I remember how I felt just five years ago when I was in a job I didn’t enjoy and had just gone back to work.  I felt heavy and, although I knew I didn’t want to carry on doing something I disliked, I wasn’t sure how to move forwards.  Rather than feeling positive and excited about the year ahead, I was totally confused!

I wonder if you feel the same?  Perhaps you are in a job you dislike?  Maybe you want to improve your health, but you’re not sure how?  Perhaps you just feel there is something not quite right in your life and you’re not sure exactly what it is?

In my case, back in January 2009, I had the spark of an idea – to retrain as a hypnotherapist.  I allowed that spark to grow and took action which ended up transforming my life in many ways.  I can’t say it was easy, but once I gained some clarity, I could see the path I wanted to take and I kept moving along it.

If you have even the smallest idea that you want to change paths, if you are fed-up with being where you are right now, then why don’t we have a chat?

I am offering free 45- minute discovery sessions this January – a chance to gently explore any changes you might want to make and find a way forward.   These sessions can be arranged either over the phone or at my therapy room in Southampton, whatever is easiest for you.  Contact me now if you would like to arrange one.

And remember, you don’t have to have your life planned out just because it’s January!  Change can happen at any time.

Three Common Misconceptions About Hypnotherapy

9 Sep people come to me for hypnotherapy, they often have some anxiety about how it will be and I wonder whether perhaps you feel the same?

Maybe you have seen stage hypnotists who seem to take control of people getting them to do silly things and make fools of themselves?

Maybe you have heard stories of people going into a trance and not being able to come out?

Perhaps you have seen films where people have been hypnotised into doing things they wouldn’t dream of normally?  No wonder there can be some fear of hypnosis when it is often presented in this way!

It’s completely natural to have worries about trying something new, so I want to put your mind at rest now about some of the common misconceptions of hypnotherapy.

1) I’ll be out of control.

When you are in hypnosis, you are totally aware of what’s happening.   As a hypnotherapist, I cannot ‘make’ you do anything you don’t want to do.   That is why before we use hypnotherapy, I will spend some time making sure you are committed to the changes you want to make and exploring any unexpected benefits of staying the way you are.  Your subconscious mind has some powerful built-in safeguards and will not allow you to do something you wouldn’t ordinarily do or reveal anything that is not to your benefit.

During hypnotherapy you will be fully in control.   I am simply facilitating you in bringing your subconscious mind into alignment with your goals and dreams.

2) I can’t be hypnotised.

Clients often worry that they won’t be able to be hypnotised or that hypnotherapy won’t  work for them.   In fact, we move into a trance-like state naturally at many times during the day.   For example, if you have ever driven somewhere familiar, got to your destination and not remembered the journey, then you have experienced trance.  Similarly, when we daydream or switch off when watching TV, then we have gone into a light hypnotic trance.

Clients are often surprised about how familiar hypnosis feels to them and they worry that they are not ‘doing it right’.  The fact is that as a client, you can simply relax and allow me to guide you into hypnosis.  Your subconscious mind will do the rest.

3) Hypnotherapy will magically allow me to achieve my goals.

I’m sorry to say that this isn’t true!  Even though hypnotherapy is wonderfully effective in helping with many problems and issues, you do need to be committed to making changes.  When I work with clients, it is very much a two-way process.  I will often ask people to do ‘homework’ between sessions with the aim of giving the subconscious mind the focus and direction it needs.  I have found that it’s the clients who are most engaged in the process of working with me who get outstanding results.  So, ask yourself, ‘Do I really want to make this change and am I willing to do everything I need to do to reach my goal?’  If the answer is ‘Yes!’, then hypnotherapy will be perfect for you.

I hope this has answered some of your questions about hypnosis and how it can help you.  I know that there are many misconceptions about hypnotherapy and that is why I offer a free 30-minute consultation with any potential clients.  This is a chance to have a chat with me, ask any questions and discuss any worries you might have before committing to a session.

I am passionate about hypnotherapy and have seen wonderful results when working with clients, so if you want to find out more then get in touch today for your free consultation.

What’s on Your Nurture List?

26 Apr

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When we think about losing weight, we tend to focus on diet and exercise – it’s what we’ve been conditioned to do. However, we can then become frustrated, as we find it difficult to actually eat healthily and be more active. It’s like something is stopping us from doing what we know we should be doing.

 The reason it can be difficult to stop overeating is that often we are using food to meet our emotional needs. In short, we are comfort eaters.

I’m sure that many of you recognise this in yourselves – you stop on the way home from a stressful day at work to buy some wine and chocolate or you come off an upsetting phone call with your partner and head straight for the ice-cream in the freezer. Food has become the friend we turn to when we feel stressed, sad, angry or fearful. In fact, pretty much any emotion can trigger off a need to overeat.

So, when we decide to lose weight and cut back on our eating, it’s like we’re being deprived of our closest friend, our biggest support. How is that going to work?

When we comfort eat, we are suppressing the emotion we are feeling, whatever that may be. We are putting a lid on it, rather than meeting the real emotional need. This is why, when I work with clients, we spend time looking at what’s happening for them when they get that urge to eat and they know they’re not physically hungry. Are they sad? Are they stressed? Are they angry? We then look at other ways of meeting that emotional need. It’s all about giving ourselves alternatives to overeating. Once the subconscious mind knows that there is another way, that it has some options, we find it easier to make healthier choices, meeting our true needs.

How can you do this for yourself? Well, I’d encourage you to take some time to think about the things you can do to help you feel more relaxed and uplifted in your life. Give yourself some space and make your own list of activities that nurture you. These can be as simple as having a cup of tea or running a bubble bath – find what feels right for you.

For me personally, I know that being outside in nature helps me to feel more grounded and peaceful. So, I make sure that I build time into my week when I can go for a walk or just sit in the garden. This morning, I took myself off to the forest to take some photos and felt such a sense of contentment and stillness. I know that if I don’t make time to do this, I will start to feel stressed and under pressure, so I’ve learned to plan regular ‘outdoor time’. This stops me from relying on the short-term fix of comfort eating.

So, create your own nurture list. Then start planning these activities into your week. Take positive action and start to truly meet your emotional needs. I guarantee you will find that you eat less and start to feel more balanced. I’d love to know what’s on your list, so please do share.

If you’d like to explore this in more detail, I am offering free weight loss clarity calls to three people next week. Contact me at if you are interested.


An Attitude of Gratitude

30 Oct

Most of the people who come to see me want to make some sort of change in their lives, maybe they want to lose weight, feel more confident or even have a baby.  This means that there is generally something they are currently unhappy with.  When we’re unhappy or dissatisfied with an element of our lives, we can get tied up with thinking about it constantly.  We can start obsessing with how overweight we are or the fact that we just can’t seem to get pregnant.  This kind of thinking can easily turn into a downward spiral and it can be difficult to see a way out.

When we’re thinking unhappy, fed-up thoughts, we tend to get more unhappy and more fed-up – it’s the way our minds operate!  So, I work with my clients to break that negative cycle and encourage them to start focusing on what they are happy with, to adopt an attitude of gratitude.  Maybe you’re not particularly happy with your body at the moment, but what are you grateful for in your life?  Perhaps you have a wonderful, supportive partner, or children who inspire you to be healthier?  How about all of the qualities you have that can help you on your way – your organisational skills, the way you motivate others, your attention to detail?  These are all things you can be grateful for and when we start to focus on feeling grateful, we automatically start to feel good!

Have you ever noticed that when you feel good, life is so much easier?  You have more energy, you can get things done and everything seems more enjoyable.  Well, by adopting an attitude to gratitude, you will be creating a shift in your mindset which makes it far easier to get what you want.

So, why not try it?  Start today and before you go to sleep tonight, think of three things you are grateful for.  Make this a bedtime ritual and I guarantee you will see a difference in your thinking.   Have a go and let me know how you get on.

The Power of Anticipation

25 May

I am going on holiday tomorrow and I’ve had a wonderful buzz of anticipation all week.  I’m sure we’re all familiar with that lovely feeling of looking forward to something special, giving us an extra spring in our steps!

This feeling of anticipation is something I encourage with all my clients who are working to make changes, in particular with those who have fertility issues.   Often when couples are trying to have a baby, they are scared to look forward to how it will be when they have a child.  They can feel that by getting excited about the prospect of having a baby they will somehow jinx their efforts.

The same often applies to weight loss clients who are reluctant to imagine how life will be when they lose the weight they want to.  They don’t want to get excited about the possibility, ‘just in case it doesn’t happen and then I will be even more disappointed’.

By holding back on looking forward we are sending a powerful message to our minds that we don’t think whatever we’re working towards is going to happen.   This can prevent us from achieving our goals AND stop us from feeling good in the meantime.   So, give yourself permission to get excited, look forward and enjoy that wonderful feeling of anticipation.  I guarantee that you will feel great AND find that you get to where you’re wanting to go much more easily.

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