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Get in Touch With Your Joy

13 Feb

At times it can be easy to get sucked into a spiral of downward thinking; feeling low and focusing on all the things we believe  are wrong with our lives.  We can forget that we are actually in control of our feelings and thinking negatively can become a habit.

So, how do we turn this around?  The first thing to realise is that we can take moments of joy whenever we want them; we don’t have to wait for happiness to be presented to us by someone or something else.     Fragments of joy are everywhere – the buds waiting to burst on a magnolia tree, seeing the gleeful wagging of a dog’s tail, taking the time to be kind to yourself, or someone else.  All of these things can bring us a wonderful warm feeling; we just have to notice them.

Another way to get in touch with your joy is to think back to a time when you felt particularly happy.  Close your eyes for a moment and take yourself back to that time; notice what you can see, hear and smell and make the memory as vivid as possible.  The mind is very powerful and when you focus on a happy memory, you can actually bring those feelings back to you.  Hypnotherapy can be a wonderful way of accessing positive feelings and bringing them into the present.

So, why not decide to make joyful thinking a habit?


16 Nov

The work I do with my clients is all about change.  Some may want to lose weight, some may want to be more confident, others may want to improve their relationships – the ways of working with hypnotherapy are endless.  However, the approach I use doesn’t try to offer a ‘quick fix’; I want people to make a long-term change that stays with them.

This means that when I start working with someone we will spend time looking at the underlying reasons for any unhelpful patterns of behaviour.  When we find the part of you which is causing you to perhaps overeat, smoke or hold back in life, I will encourage you to see that this part is trying to do the best for you; maybe it’s trying to comfort you, relax you or keep you safe.  Once we can see what’s going on in our unconscious minds and accept that part of ourselves, we can start to change the way we behave.

The psychotherapist, Joseph Zinker encouraged people to look at themselves as if they were a beautiful sunset or a view in nature.  When we see something like this, we don’t try to change it, we appreciate every part for what it is.  If we can see ourselves like this, appreciating and accepting every part of us, then change will start to happen naturally.  We will feel freer to move forward, rather than using our energy constantly trying to suppress our true selves.

So, take some time out to appreciate every part of you.


11 May

One of the main benefits of using hypnotherapy is that it helps to bring different thoughts, feelings and behaviours into our awareness.  Many of us are so busy today and constantly being bombarded with information from the tv, internet, magazines and advertisements – no wonder it’s so common to lose touch with what’s going on inside us.

But why is it so important to discover those unconscious thoughts and feelings?  Well, we often behave in certain ways or have thought patterns that can be quite negative; you may have a running commentary of self-criticisms in your mind, or maybe you always find yourself over-eating at a particular time.  If you are not aware of these thoughts and behaviours, then you can’t do anything to change them – that’s where hypnotherapy comes in.

When I work with someone, we spend time looking at exactly what is going on for them when they experience their particular problem behaviour – what thoughts are running through their mind, what are they feeling physically, any images they see.  Once we know exactly how they experience the situation, we can do something to switch it around and help them to behave much more resourcefully.

In this busy world it’s helpful to take some time out and get in touch with what we are experiencing at any given moment.  So, when you’ve got a couple of minutes spare, sit down quietly on your own and just notice what is going on for you.  Say out loud, ‘I am aware of….’ and finish that sentence.  It may be, ‘I am aware of a pain in my knee’ or ‘I am aware of the birds singing outside’ or ‘I am aware of worrying about my exam tomorrow’.  Just go with what comes to you – don’t judge it or censor yourself.     Devoting a short amount of time regularly to raise awareness will mean that it starts to come naturally to you – you’ll notice when you are thinking negatively or when something is causing you to feel physically uncomfortable and then you can do something to change it.

Give it a try and let me know if you discover anything surprising.

Letting Go

22 Feb

I find that a lot of the work I do with clients is about letting go of negative thought patterns and behaviours.   It’s easy to cause a lot of our own problems by mentally beating ourselves up, being overly self-critical and taking refuge in unhelpful habits.  In addition, we can spend a huge amount of time worrying about the past and what’s to come in the future.  It all sounds pretty exhausting and it can leave us feeling drained and anxious.

So, what’s the answer?  Well, it’s really quite simple – we just need to stop and bring ourselves back to the present moment.   Whenever I wake up in the middle of the night and start worrying about something I haven’t done, or something I have to do, I catch myself and pull my mind back to the present.  What do I possibly have to do or think about in the middle of the night?  Nothing!  I remind myself to let everything go, clear my mind and drift back to sleep.  It can take some practice, but the more you do this, the easier it becomes.

There’s a technique I use with my hynotherapy clients which helps with letting go and focussing on the moment.   I ask them to imagine a box in front of them, a box where they can put any worries or anxieties, any troubling thoughts or tension.  I ask them to put anything they want to let go of into the box and then imgaine a helium balloon attached to it.   Finally I ask them to give the balloon a push and watch the box floating way from them, up into the air and into the distance until it drifts completely out of view and out of their awareness.   They often feel a real sense of lightness afterwards, as if a weight has been lifted from them.

It sounds simple, but this technique can be used at any time.  Just stop for a moment and let any troubles float away.  Why not try it out now and see how letting go can make all the difference?

And Relax!

19 Jan

January can be a difficult month.   After the big build-up to Christmas and New Year’s celebrations, we can feel a bit flat as life returns to ‘normal’ and the summer seems a long way off.  On top of that, we’ve often set ourselves a whole list of resolutions which we’ve broken already, leaving us feeling frustrated and disappointed.

So, this January why not be a bit easier on yourself and take some time out to just relax and chill out?  It’s great to have goals and to make changes, but often we can achieve much more by simply letting go a bit. 

Relaxation is a key element of my work with hypnotherapy clients.  By guiding someone into a state of deep relaxation, it’s much easier to make positive changes to our thought processes and behaviour.  I often get people coming to me who claim they ‘can’t’ relax and, of course, I don’t contradict them, but within a few minutes I know they will be sat back, eyes closed, wonderfully calm and peaceful.  I find that when people say they can’t relax, what they really mean is that they just don’t take the time out to do it.

The fact is that by simply taking some time out of our day to relax, we replenish ourselves, recharging our batteries, and this can often give us the boost we need to help us achieve our goals much more easily.

You don’t have to spend hours meditating to benefit from this; for just 10 minutes a day, sitting quietly or perhaps in the bath, say to yourself  ‘this is my time’ and allow yourself to switch off.   Focus on your breathing and let your mind drift, don’t worry if thoughts pop up, as they doubtless will, just notice them and then let them go.

So, why not make that your resolution?   Take 10 minutes a day for yourself and everything else will follow. 

If you find that difficult, then I’ve recorded a new CD which will help you drift into a state of blissful relaxation, so contact me to get a copy.

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