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Why 1-1 hypnotherapy is SO different from just listening to a CD (or reading a book).

5 Feb

woman listening to musicApologies for the long title to this blog post, but this week I am on a bit of a rant (only a bit, I don’t do huge rants generally!)

Recently I was reading some reviews on Amazon for Paul McKenna’s Hypnotic Gastric Band book and CD and although many of the reviews were positive, I was struck by one in particular.  This woman said it hadn’t worked, but at least it had saved her money as she had previously been planning to go and see a therapist for a hypno-gastric band.  Because she had read the book, listened to the CD and didn’t have the desired results, she was ruling out getting individual help.

That’s fair enough.  I don’t expect everyone to want to work with a hypnotherapist.  However, if you want results, if you want to address your unique needs, then one-to-one is absolutely the way to go.

Reading self-help books is fantastic (it’s one of my favourite pastimes actually!), but the only way to make a change is to take action.  I must admit, I often find myself reading books that have suggestions and exercises in them and most of the time, I don’t do them.  Obviously, the change I am reading about is just not important enough for me to take action.  That’s okay.  I enjoy the book and I will take something from it, but if I don’t fully engage then I won’t receive the best results.

I haven’t read Paul McKenna’s Hypnotic Gastric Band book, but I’m sure that has action points in it too, suggestions on things to do differently.  The fact is, those who don’t implement the suggestions won’t get the results they want.  Simple.

How about listening to a hypnosis CD?  These can be very useful.  CDs can help you to relax and work with specific issues.  However, a CD won’t be specifically tailored to you.  It won’t use your language and it won’t address your individual needs.

I was speaking to a friend the other day who had used hypno-birthing CDs prior to having her baby and although she had found them useful, when it came to her personal labour experience the CDs didn’t fully meet her needs.  She wished she had booked some one-to-one hypno-birthing with me.

When I work one-to-one with a client, I don’t go straight into the hypnosis part of the process.  The first (and hugely important) step is to talk.  I ask the right questions so that we can get to the core of the particular issue we are working on.  Often talking about and exploring a problem can be transformative in itself.

Once I have the information I need, we move into hypnotherapy and often this can be a two-way process with me asking the client questions under hypnosis.

Every part of the process is tailored to the individual client and this is how we achieve big changes and shifts, often very quickly.

So, if you are interested in hypnotherapy, please do buy a book and listen to a CD to find out more, but if you want to make powerful and long-lasting change, get in touch and let’s talk about what’s best for YOU.

 

How Positive Affirmations Can (Really) Help You!

29 Jan

BelieveI’m sure you have heard about positive affirmations – a statement which you repeat either out loud or in your mind in order to reprogram the subconscious mind, helping to bring about a desired outcome.

Maybe you are even using them at the moment?  Perhaps you have a phrase or a number of phrases which you repeat to yourself to help you reach a particular goal?

I love positive affirmations – I use them personally and I often recommend them to clients.  They certainly can be a powerful way of focusing and directing our subconscious mind.  However, it’s important to recognise when we are using affirmations as a kind of sticking plaster.  What do I mean by ‘sticking plaster’?  Well, sometimes we may endlessly be repeating a positive affirmation, for example, ‘I am effortlessly becoming the weight I want to be’, when underneath we are thinking, ‘Oh come on, I’m never going to do it.  I’ve never managed to lose weight before, so why would I now?  I just can’t do it.’  You can see that in this situation the affirmation is just sitting on top of the negativity underneath.

I was speaking with a client about this recently.  She is coming to me to help reach a particular goal and was telling me how she has positive affirmations on post-it notes around her house.  This is a great idea as each time you see them, it reinforces the positive statement.  However, when we talked a bit more, it was clear that she had a bundle of negative thoughts and feelings going on which were getting in the way of her truly believing and embodying the affirmations.

So, what can we do about this?  How can we clear away any negativity so that we can use positive affirmation to change our mindsets and our feelings?  One of the best ways I have found is to use Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).  EFT works by tapping on different parts of the body to shift any unhelpful thoughts or beliefs.   If you haven’t experienced the technique, you may think this sounds a bit strange (tapping on different parts of the body can change my thoughts and feelings?!), but it really works.  EFT can help you to transform your perspective, gain clarity and shift limited thinking.

When we use EFT to clear the way for our positive affirmations, the effect is powerful.

So if you feel that your positive affirmations are more of a sticking plaster than a mind-booster at the moment, or if you would like to find out more about how a combination of hypnotherapy and EFT can help you achieve your goals and dreams, get in touch today and let’s chat.

The Power of Positive Rituals

24 Jan

 

Taking the powerWhen clients come to me, we often work on behaviour that has become habitual. When we think about habits, we tend to focus on those habits that we feel are unhelpful – always having something sweet after meals, smoking or biting fingernails.  We talk about our ‘bad habits’, as if they are something we can’t change.

 

What I encourage my clients to do is to find a more positive habit to replace the old behaviour.   When we try not to do something, our minds can struggle.   This is why diets can be so troublesome – we are constantly thinking about the food we’re not allowed to eat!   That’s why it’s helpful to come up with an alternative.   That way our minds have something to focus on and the change feels a lot easier.

 

In their wonderful book ‘On Form’, Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz talk about positive rituals, ‘precise, consciously acquired behaviours that become automatic in our lives’, in other words – habits.  We can choose to establish new habits that become positive rituals in our daily lives, an established routine which is faithfully followed.

 

A number of my personal habits have become positive rituals, which form an important part of my life.   Some examples are:

 

  1. Morning Meditation.  This is something that has become part of my daily routine now, setting me up for the day.   On those days that I miss my meditation, I notice that I feel less grounded.

     

  2. Walk to work Wednesday.  I like to walk as often as I can and on a Wednesday, I make a special effort to walk to the therapy room where I am based.  It’s a habit that often spreads to other days of the week and has a positive impact on my body and mind.

     

  3. Curry Thursday.  Now this might not sound like a particularly positive habit (bear with me!)  Curry Thursday is my date night with Mr H and is something we have done since we first met.  It’s now firmly embedded as part of our relationship and is important as often we don’t see much of each other during the week.  It’s a positive ritual that means that we always make this time for each other.

     

So, my challenge to you this week is to think about at least one positive ritual that you can begin to make part of your routine. What area of your life would you like to improve? Maybe your positive ritual could apply to your health, your relationship, your work or your self-care?

 
Take some time to think about it now and feel free to commit to your new positive ritual below in the comments.

Have you got the New Year Blues?

7 Jan

Crossroad on HillAs we move into a new year, I wonder how you are feeling?  It seems that everywhere on TV, in magazines and newspapers, we are being encouraged to make changes, feel positive and have our lives mapped out for the whole of 2014.  January can feel quite pressurised with all this talk of resolutions and ‘New Year, New You’.

I remember how I felt just five years ago when I was in a job I didn’t enjoy and had just gone back to work.  I felt heavy and, although I knew I didn’t want to carry on doing something I disliked, I wasn’t sure how to move forwards.  Rather than feeling positive and excited about the year ahead, I was totally confused!

I wonder if you feel the same?  Perhaps you are in a job you dislike?  Maybe you want to improve your health, but you’re not sure how?  Perhaps you just feel there is something not quite right in your life and you’re not sure exactly what it is?

In my case, back in January 2009, I had the spark of an idea – to retrain as a hypnotherapist.  I allowed that spark to grow and took action which ended up transforming my life in many ways.  I can’t say it was easy, but once I gained some clarity, I could see the path I wanted to take and I kept moving along it.

If you have even the smallest idea that you want to change paths, if you are fed-up with being where you are right now, then why don’t we have a chat?

I am offering free 45- minute discovery sessions this January – a chance to gently explore any changes you might want to make and find a way forward.   These sessions can be arranged either over the phone or at my therapy room in Southampton, whatever is easiest for you.  Contact me now if you would like to arrange one.

And remember, you don’t have to have your life planned out just because it’s January!  Change can happen at any time.

Expand your possibilities with OCTOBER-fest

2 Oct

ExpandRecently I read that 95% of our thoughts each day are the same as the previous day and, on average, 85% of those thoughts are negative.  I have heard this fact before, but it really struck me this time.  If we are thinking pretty much the same thoughts each day, then we are going to end up making the same choices, feeling the same, staying in the same place in our lives.

The work I do always relates to some sort of change and I know that many of us feel uncomfortable with change, as our thinking gets stuck in a particular pattern.

I wanted to find a way for you to start expanding your thinking, to become more comfortable with the possibility of change.  To do this, I have come up with OCTOBER-fest (and it’s nothing to do with beer!)

Over on the Horizon Hypnotherapy Facebook page, each day during October I will be asking a different question designed to expand your sense of possibility.  Questions are a great way of getting us to think about something different.  Once we are asked a question, our powerful subconscious mind has to find an answer, so it will go on a quest to come up with one.

The questions I will be asking this October are all designed to get you thinking about what positive change you want to bring into your life, to think about what is possible and to break out of the limited thoughts we often have from day to day.

As an example, the first question is:  What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

Notice how you feel as you ask yourself that question.  Maybe you experience a sense of excitement?  What comes to mind?  Is there a project you’ve been putting off because of the fear of failure, or not being good enough? What could you do today to start taking action, a small step?  Obviously one question leads to another!

So, how do you join OCTOBER-fest?   You simply need to like the Horizon Hypnotherapy Facebook page and each day you will see the question that has been posed.  You can either answer in the comments box on Facebook or perhaps you could make October a month to start a journal and write about each question in that?

I would love to hear what you think, so please do comment on this blog post.

Here’s to expansive thinking!

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