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Could a Negativity Diet Help You?

25 Feb

Each week I send out a  Tuesday Challenge and this week I am inviting you to take part.

I am challenging you to put yourself on a Negativity Diet for the next seven days.  What do I mean by this?  The idea is to reduce (or eliminate completely!) negativity from your life.   You can do this by:

  • Not being drawn into negative, gossipy conversations with others.
  • Not grumbling or complaining about yourself, your situation or the people around you.
  • Watching your thoughts and noticing those times when you are critical about yourself. (When you notice your thinking, you can change it.)
  • Commiting to not putting negative status updates or comments on Facebook, or other social media.
  • Being aware of the information you are taking in through TV, newspapers and magazines and choosing to focus on the positive.

Why should you do this?  Well, the fact is that whatever you put out into the world, through your words, thoughts and interactions, you get more of that back.  So, if you are putting a lot of negativity out there, then you will get a whole load of negativity back (and I’m sure you don’t want that!)

If you choose to put more positivity and support out into the world, then guess what?  You will get a lot more positivity and support coming back to you.

Watch the video below for more details of the challenge and commit to taking part by posting in the comments below.   Let’s spread some positive vibes this week!

 

Outside the Comfort Zone

18 Feb

Out of the comfort zoneWhen was the last time you took a step outside of your comfort zone?

When did you last do something that made you feel a little bit uncomfortable, a little scared and quite excited?

Is there something you are wanting to do, but you find yourself making excuses about why you can’t?

As a mindset specialist, I know that when we challenge ourselves, when we do something different that takes us out of our comfort zone, we receive many benefits.  We grow our self-confidence, we feel better about ourselves and we expand our sense of possibility.

It’s been proven that around 95% of the thoughts we have each day are the same as the day before (and the day before that, and the day before that – yawn!)  The same goes for our behaviour.  We tend to do the same things, speak to the same people, go to the same places, day after day.  When we keep thinking and doing the same things, our world starts to shrink.  As our world begins to shrink, so do our confidence levels.

I know that it can feel easier to stay safely inside our comfort zone.   It’s a very tempting, cosy place to be.

I also know that when we challenge ourselves to do something different, it feels great and the positive effects can be long-lasting.

So, today I have set you a challenge.  Watch the video below and decide what action you are going to take this week to expand your comfort zone.

Don’t forget to comment below and let me know what step you will be taking outside your comfort zone.  I look forward to hearing what it’s like ‘out there’!

How Positive Affirmations Can (Really) Help You!

29 Jan

BelieveI’m sure you have heard about positive affirmations – a statement which you repeat either out loud or in your mind in order to reprogram the subconscious mind, helping to bring about a desired outcome.

Maybe you are even using them at the moment?  Perhaps you have a phrase or a number of phrases which you repeat to yourself to help you reach a particular goal?

I love positive affirmations – I use them personally and I often recommend them to clients.  They certainly can be a powerful way of focusing and directing our subconscious mind.  However, it’s important to recognise when we are using affirmations as a kind of sticking plaster.  What do I mean by ‘sticking plaster’?  Well, sometimes we may endlessly be repeating a positive affirmation, for example, ‘I am effortlessly becoming the weight I want to be’, when underneath we are thinking, ‘Oh come on, I’m never going to do it.  I’ve never managed to lose weight before, so why would I now?  I just can’t do it.’  You can see that in this situation the affirmation is just sitting on top of the negativity underneath.

I was speaking with a client about this recently.  She is coming to me to help reach a particular goal and was telling me how she has positive affirmations on post-it notes around her house.  This is a great idea as each time you see them, it reinforces the positive statement.  However, when we talked a bit more, it was clear that she had a bundle of negative thoughts and feelings going on which were getting in the way of her truly believing and embodying the affirmations.

So, what can we do about this?  How can we clear away any negativity so that we can use positive affirmation to change our mindsets and our feelings?  One of the best ways I have found is to use Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).  EFT works by tapping on different parts of the body to shift any unhelpful thoughts or beliefs.   If you haven’t experienced the technique, you may think this sounds a bit strange (tapping on different parts of the body can change my thoughts and feelings?!), but it really works.  EFT can help you to transform your perspective, gain clarity and shift limited thinking.

When we use EFT to clear the way for our positive affirmations, the effect is powerful.

So if you feel that your positive affirmations are more of a sticking plaster than a mind-booster at the moment, or if you would like to find out more about how a combination of hypnotherapy and EFT can help you achieve your goals and dreams, get in touch today and let’s chat.

The Power of Positive Rituals

24 Jan

 

Taking the powerWhen clients come to me, we often work on behaviour that has become habitual. When we think about habits, we tend to focus on those habits that we feel are unhelpful – always having something sweet after meals, smoking or biting fingernails.  We talk about our ‘bad habits’, as if they are something we can’t change.

 

What I encourage my clients to do is to find a more positive habit to replace the old behaviour.   When we try not to do something, our minds can struggle.   This is why diets can be so troublesome – we are constantly thinking about the food we’re not allowed to eat!   That’s why it’s helpful to come up with an alternative.   That way our minds have something to focus on and the change feels a lot easier.

 

In their wonderful book ‘On Form’, Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz talk about positive rituals, ‘precise, consciously acquired behaviours that become automatic in our lives’, in other words – habits.  We can choose to establish new habits that become positive rituals in our daily lives, an established routine which is faithfully followed.

 

A number of my personal habits have become positive rituals, which form an important part of my life.   Some examples are:

 

  1. Morning Meditation.  This is something that has become part of my daily routine now, setting me up for the day.   On those days that I miss my meditation, I notice that I feel less grounded.

     

  2. Walk to work Wednesday.  I like to walk as often as I can and on a Wednesday, I make a special effort to walk to the therapy room where I am based.  It’s a habit that often spreads to other days of the week and has a positive impact on my body and mind.

     

  3. Curry Thursday.  Now this might not sound like a particularly positive habit (bear with me!)  Curry Thursday is my date night with Mr H and is something we have done since we first met.  It’s now firmly embedded as part of our relationship and is important as often we don’t see much of each other during the week.  It’s a positive ritual that means that we always make this time for each other.

     

So, my challenge to you this week is to think about at least one positive ritual that you can begin to make part of your routine. What area of your life would you like to improve? Maybe your positive ritual could apply to your health, your relationship, your work or your self-care?

 
Take some time to think about it now and feel free to commit to your new positive ritual below in the comments.

Hypnotherapy for Weight Management

13 Jan

http://www.dreamstime.com/stock-photo-portrait-thoughtful-young-woman-kitchen-image29191340One of my specialist areas is helping clients to reduce their weight using hypnotherapy.   People often come to me as a last resort (sad but true!).  They’ve tried everything to become the weight they want to be – diets, slimming clubs, going to the gym, meal replacements, intermittent fasting – but it just hasn’t worked.

Quite often by the time people make contact with me they feel totally frustrated and confused (I wonder if this is resonating with you at the moment?)

The fact is that until your mind is the right place, any goal you set yourself is going to be hard work.  This is particularly true when it comes to weight management, as generally we are told that in order to lose weight we have to follow a restrictive diet; we have to deprive ourselves.  The mind does not respond well to restriction or deprivation, so following the standard advice of going on some kind of diet is always going to feel like a struggle.

I love it when people first get in touch with me and I tell them there is a different way.  I tell them that it’s completely understandable that they’ve been feeling so frustrated and confused.  I tell them they can start to relax, because I am going to help them work in alignment with their mind, rather than battling against it.  I love seeing the look of relief on a new client’s face!

Here is what some of my clients have said about working with me:

‘I had six sessions of hypnotherapy for weight loss with Nicola in the Summer of 2013 and I found it life-changing.   I can truthfully say it is the best money I have ever spent!’

‘I can honestly say my whole relationship with food has changed completely. The way I think when I reach for food, the amount I eat and the feeling of being “out of control” has gone.’

‘The weight loss is happening with no effort and it has been a natural process, as the barriers have disappeared.’

How does this sound to you?  Would you like to find a different way of becoming the weight you want to be?  Are you fed-up with yo-yo dieting and the constant battle with your weight?

If you would like to know more about how I can help you, why not take the first step and get in touch now for an initial chat.  Make 2014 the year you finally become the weight you want to be!

 

 

 

 

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