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Five Steps to a Confident You!

19 Aug all have days when we feel  a bit low, those days when it seems easier to crawl back under the covers and hide from the world.  These are the times when we need to connect with our inner confidence, that special something that gives us our sparkle back.

I know that it can sometimes feel like an impossible task to make that connection, but having these five steps to follow will empower you to feel confident and ready to take on the world again.

1) Find your own confidence talisman.   This should be something that represents confidence to you.  It might be a photo of someone you admire, a piece of jewellery or even a stone you can keep in your pocket.  When you need an extra boost of confidence, connect with your confidence talisman.  Look at it, wear it or feel it.  Let the confidence flow in to you.

2) If you were to feel confident, where would you hold your confidence in your body?  Just close your eyes and see what part of your body comes to mind.  Perhaps it’s your heart, your head, your stomach, whatever feels right for you.  Notice how confidence feels as a physical sensation.  Is it hot or cold, hard or soft?  Does it move or is it still?  Take some time to explore how you experience confidence physically.  Whenever you want to tap into your confidence, focus on the part of the body where you hold it and allow the feeling to grow and become strong.

3) Get in touch with the confident you.  Imagine how you would be if you were super-confident.  How would you dress?  How would you move?  What would you say?  What sort of thoughts would you have?  Allow yourself to imagine your most confident you and get excited about the possibility of being that way.  When you are going into a situation where you want to feel confident, connect with this part of you.  If you can imagine being this way, you can do it!

4) Realise it doesn’t have to be all or nothing.  Sometimes we label ourselves a particular way (or someone else might have done this for us!)  Perhaps we have adopted the label ‘shy’ or ‘introverted’ and we think there’s no way we can be confident at the same time – it’s like black and white thinking.  Just because sometimes you might feel shy doesn’t mean you can’t feel confident at other times.  I used to have the label ‘shy’ attached to me and thought there was no way I could stand up in front of people and talk.  I’ve come to realise that shyness is just one aspect of me and I also have a confident side.  Accept the possibility that you have many different qualities within you and confidence is certainly one of them.

5) Make a resolution to do one new thing every day to start expanding your comfort zone.  The possibilities are endless, like taking a new route to work, starting a conversation with the newsagent, taking an evening class or switching off the TV and doing something different. Have fun with them and know that with each new thing you are building your confidence.

If you start experimenting with these five steps, your confidence will start to grow naturally.   Start today and please do let me know how you get on!

This blog post is adapted from an article I wrote for Soul & Spirit Magazine.


Hypnotherapy for Weight Loss

5 Aug are sometimes surprised that I do so much work with weight loss clients.  Wouldn’t a nutritionist or personal trainer be the most appropriate person to call on when you you want to lose weight?

Actually, until your mindset is in the right place, I’m afraid that anything you try to lose weight is going to be a struggle.

This is where hypnotherapy comes in.  When we work with hypnosis, we are working with that deep part of the mind, the subconscious, that influences our behaviour and decision-making.  If the subconscious is not in alignment with what we are trying to do for example, losing weight, then it can feel like we’re battling against ourselves.  This is when the weight loss process becomes REALLY hard work!

When I work with clients who want to lose weight, we use hypnotherapy to do three key things:

  • Let the subconscious mind know exactly what you want and how good it will be when you get there.  (This gives the subconscious the clear direction it needs).
  • Identify any unconscious blocks you might have in the form of past experiences or limiting beliefs, for example, the idea that you must ALWAYS clear your plate, or the belief that you won’t be able to maintain your ideal weight.
  • Find a way to lose weight that fits for you and is in alignment with the way you live your life.  (This means that the process feels natural and effortless, rather than frustrating and difficult).

By using hypnosis in the above ways, you can lose weight without dieting or depriving yourself.

So, rather than choosing hypnotherapy as a last resort, maybe it’s time to get your mindset in the right place and allow yourself to finally be the weight you want to be?  Contact me now to arrange your free 30-minute consultation and find out more.

What’s Your Meaning?

30 May my work as a hypnotherapist, I have come to realise that if we make our goals as compelling as possible for the subconscious mind, then it will help us to get to where we want to go. To do this we need to give that deep, powerful part of our mind a very clear idea of what we want.

When I am working with clients, one of the first things I get them to do is to visualise how they will look when they are the weight they want to be. This is very important in itself, as it gives the subconscious a wonderful image of where you want to be. However, to take this a step further, you need to really get in touch with how it will be for you when you are the weight you want to be and what that will mean to you.

So, how do you do this? Well, I’d encourage you to think about the following areas:

  1. How will you feel when you’re the weight you want to be? Often women know that they will feel more confident, happier with themselves, more relaxed.
  2. How will the way you behave change, both socially and at work? Maybe you will feel a greater sense of freedom and this means you will act differently.
  3. Think about the impact your weight loss will have on your relationships, particularly your children if are a mother. Clients often say this is a big incentive to adopt a healthier relationship with food, in order to be an inspiration to their children and their loved ones.
  4. How will being the weight you want to be make a difference to the clothes you wear? This is something that virtually every woman I work with mentions, being able to wear what they want and not feel restricted.
  5. How you will your weight loss affect your health and fitness levels? Imagine how it will be to experience a new sense of vitality and energy.


This is why I love working with weight loss, because I have seen over the years that it’s not just about the physical changes. In fact, often this is only a small part of what happens to my clients. Losing weight has a huge impact on all areas of their lives.

If you are trying to lose weight, or make any sort of lifestyle change, take some time to think about the difference it will make in all of the above categories. Go through each point and write down what your weight loss will mean to you in as much detail as possible.

If you are a particularly visual person, then perhaps you could create a vision board which shows the impact in all areas of your life.

Have fun and start to get excited about what you are moving towards!

Once you have done this, it will be like you’ve created a 3D image of your future and your subconscious will know exactly where you are heading and how amazing it’s going to be. And do you know what? It will start finding ways to get you there, without you even thinking about it.

Amazing eh?

If you are struggling with losing weight at the moment and you feel like something is holding you back, the home study version of the Your Forever Weight Loss online program is the perfect solution for you. Click here for more details and you can get started straight away!

What’s on Your Nurture List?

26 Apr

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When we think about losing weight, we tend to focus on diet and exercise – it’s what we’ve been conditioned to do. However, we can then become frustrated, as we find it difficult to actually eat healthily and be more active. It’s like something is stopping us from doing what we know we should be doing.

 The reason it can be difficult to stop overeating is that often we are using food to meet our emotional needs. In short, we are comfort eaters.

I’m sure that many of you recognise this in yourselves – you stop on the way home from a stressful day at work to buy some wine and chocolate or you come off an upsetting phone call with your partner and head straight for the ice-cream in the freezer. Food has become the friend we turn to when we feel stressed, sad, angry or fearful. In fact, pretty much any emotion can trigger off a need to overeat.

So, when we decide to lose weight and cut back on our eating, it’s like we’re being deprived of our closest friend, our biggest support. How is that going to work?

When we comfort eat, we are suppressing the emotion we are feeling, whatever that may be. We are putting a lid on it, rather than meeting the real emotional need. This is why, when I work with clients, we spend time looking at what’s happening for them when they get that urge to eat and they know they’re not physically hungry. Are they sad? Are they stressed? Are they angry? We then look at other ways of meeting that emotional need. It’s all about giving ourselves alternatives to overeating. Once the subconscious mind knows that there is another way, that it has some options, we find it easier to make healthier choices, meeting our true needs.

How can you do this for yourself? Well, I’d encourage you to take some time to think about the things you can do to help you feel more relaxed and uplifted in your life. Give yourself some space and make your own list of activities that nurture you. These can be as simple as having a cup of tea or running a bubble bath – find what feels right for you.

For me personally, I know that being outside in nature helps me to feel more grounded and peaceful. So, I make sure that I build time into my week when I can go for a walk or just sit in the garden. This morning, I took myself off to the forest to take some photos and felt such a sense of contentment and stillness. I know that if I don’t make time to do this, I will start to feel stressed and under pressure, so I’ve learned to plan regular ‘outdoor time’. This stops me from relying on the short-term fix of comfort eating.

So, create your own nurture list. Then start planning these activities into your week. Take positive action and start to truly meet your emotional needs. I guarantee you will find that you eat less and start to feel more balanced. I’d love to know what’s on your list, so please do share.

If you’d like to explore this in more detail, I am offering free weight loss clarity calls to three people next week. Contact me at if you are interested.


Why Belief is a Weighty Issue

18 Apr

When women come to see me for help with losing weight, it’s often as a last resort.  They have been on and off diets for years and it hasn’t worked. They know what they need to do to lose weight, but something is stopping them.

That ‘something’ is usually their own subconscious, that deep part of the mind that controls much of our decision-making and behaviour. When your subconscious isn’t in alignment with your conscious desires, it can feel like you’re battling against yourself – and that’s exhausting!

So, what can you do if it feels like you’re fighting a losing battle with your weight at the moment?

I often notice that when my clients first come to see me, they don’t truly believe they can be the weight they want to be. They know how they want to be, but when they focus on this, creeping doubts start to come in. Something deep inside says, ‘You can’t do that’, ‘You know you won’t be able to keep the weight off’, ‘Why bother?’ This lack of self-belief makes it really hard work to lose weight and maintain it.

I’d encourage you to just check in with yourself now – do you believe you can be the weight you want to be?

To do this, close your eyes and imagine yourself at your ideal weight. As you do that, just notice any thoughts or feelings that come to mind. Notice the kind of things you are saying to yourself – are the words encouraging and supportive, or are you being critical?

Once you have spent a few moments doing this, think about what came to you as you did that exercise. I really hope that you are full of self-belief and only had positive, encouraging thoughts, but I know from personal experience and working with clients that we can often be very hard on ourselves. We can be positive for a while and then those doubts and criticisms start to creep in.

The great thing is, once you start noticing any negative self-talk, you can start to do something about it. Once you become aware of those thoughts and feelings that have held you back in the past, you can start to work with them and change them.

You can create shifts in your mindset and build your self-belief.

This could be a key area where you have struggled in the past.  If you have strived to be a particular weight and not been able to get there, or you’ve reached your target weight and then slipped, it is probably because you don’t quite believe you can be the weight you want to be.

So, from now on, start paying attention to your internal dialogue, particularly in relation to food, eating and the way you see yourself. If you notice anything critical or negative, just catch yourself and change it.  Simply think of something more positive and encouraging to say to yourself and use those words.  So, when you are thinking about losing weight, if you notice a nagging voice comes to mind saying, ‘You can’t do that!’,  just choose to replace that with ‘I can lose weight and I am becoming the weight I want to be right now’.

It’s likely that you won’t catch all of the negativity, but even if you can start to shift some of it, this will make a powerful difference.

Make a decision now to grow your self-belief. I guarantee it will make a difference.

If you would like some extra support to create powerful changes in your minds  and be the weight you want to be, my Forever Weight Loss online program is starting on 24th April.  Click here for more details and to sign-up.


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