Will this work for me?

29 Apr

http://www.dreamstime.com/stock-photography-woman-thinking-image9668962I recently sent out a survey and one of the questions I asked was, ‘Is there anything that stops you from trying hypnotherapy or Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)?’

One of the most common responses was, ‘I’m not sure if or how it would help me.’

I hear this a lot from prospective clients. I even wondered about it myself before I actually started to use these therapies personally (I used to be a bit of a sceptic!).

So, what’s the answer. Can hypnotherapy or EFT help anybody?

My belief (and my experience) is YES! These are powerful, life-changing techniques . However, there are some conditions and in the spirit of complete honesty, I want to share them with you.

1) You need to do the work

I have said this before and always make it clear to my clients. You cannot just come for a hypnotherapy or EFT session, sit back and expect the therapist to do all the work (sorry, but it’s not a magic pill!)

Any kind of therapy is a two-way process. I often give my clients homework to do and you have to be willing to take action.

Maybe you’ve had the experience of reading a self-help book and skipping through the exercises the author recommends (ahem, holding my hand up here!) Did you get any results? No!

If you don’t want to do the work, you won’t get results. A willingness to change and engage in the process is a necessity.

2) You will feel resistance

I can guarantee that resistance will come into play at some point.  What I mean by resistance is feeling fed-up, doubting whether it’s working for you, procrastination or feeling like you’re going backwards.

The truth is, if there wasn’t any resistance you would have made the change already.

I must admit, as a therapist I love it when resistance comes up for a client. I know that might sound mean, but when someone starts to find the process difficult, it means that the real change is taking place.

I generally work with clients for six sessions and around session three or four, I know that they will arrive saying that everything has gone wrong. I’ve come to expect it, so I can secretly smile and reassure them that this is a clear sign that big shifts are happening.

When our norm (hey Norm!) feels threatened, it starts to play up. It might feel like we’re falling back into our old ways, but it’s just Norm trying to keep us safe and comfortable.

The good news? Hypnotherapy and EFT are excellent tools for moving through resistance and dealing with Norm.  We’ve got it covered.

3) The client/therapist relationship is super-important

I have worked with lots of clients who have seen other therapists and not got the results they wanted. When I ask what the experience was like, they usually say that they felt some sort of discomfort with the therapist.

Because they didn’t feel at ease, they couldn’t relax. If you can’t relax, then it’s difficult to go into hypnosis. If you can’t go into hypnosis, then you don’t create the change.

It’s so important that you feel comfortable with your therapist. You need to feel safe and supported in all of the work that you do.

This is why I always offer a free 30-minute consultation to any prospective clients. I want to make sure that they feel at ease with me and happy with the way I work.

4) One-session wonders are possible (but not the norm)

Often people have a belief, particularly with hypnotherapy, that they will have one session and ‘Boom!’, their life will be completely different and all their problems will be solved.

Now, I can certainly help specific issues in one session. Smoking is a common one. The fact is, you either smoke or you don’t smoke so we can switch between one and the other, usually fairly easily.

Other issues are more complex. When it comes to weight loss, you can’t simply give up eating. So we have to make changes to your relationship with food, the way you eat and the choices you make. This takes time and the change can be gradual, but it will come.

EFT can also help to achieve surprisingly quick shifts, but sometimes you have to tap on a particular issue for a while to get clear results.

If you experience chronic pain or a long-term issue, then I always recommend tapping daily (just for a few minutes) to create a change.

Sometimes issues aren’t clear-cut and therefore it’s not so easy to see black and white results.

I personally tap pretty much every day, as well as using self-hypnosis regularly to make changes and achieve my goals.

Is it always quick and easy? No.

Do I sometimes feel like I can’t be bothered? Yes.

When I take the time to do it, do I see results? Yes!

I might not see an immediate change, but I know that my life flows easier when I use these powerful tools.

Often I look back over a period of months, or even years and think, ‘Wow! I really have changed.’ Sometimes we can’t see change when we’re close to it. It’s only when we get some distance and step back that we notice the difference.

When I work with clients, my aim is to give them the tools they need so they can go away and continue to create change. I don’t want to keep the secrets for myself, I want to empower you. Once you know how to use hypnosis and EFT (and anyone can do this!), you have these skills for life.

So, does that answer any questions for you?

Have you been wondering ‘Will this work for me?’

Take action now!  Ask yourself, ‘Am I ready to do the work?’, ‘Is this issue or problem important enough for me to take action?’ and ‘Am I willing to move past any resistance?’

If the answer is, ‘Yes!’, get in touch to arrange your free 30-minute consultation and let’s get started.

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