Tag Archives: Confidence

Outside the Comfort Zone

18 Feb

Out of the comfort zoneWhen was the last time you took a step outside of your comfort zone?

When did you last do something that made you feel a little bit uncomfortable, a little scared and quite excited?

Is there something you are wanting to do, but you find yourself making excuses about why you can’t?

As a mindset specialist, I know that when we challenge ourselves, when we do something different that takes us out of our comfort zone, we receive many benefits.  We grow our self-confidence, we feel better about ourselves and we expand our sense of possibility.

It’s been proven that around 95% of the thoughts we have each day are the same as the day before (and the day before that, and the day before that – yawn!)  The same goes for our behaviour.  We tend to do the same things, speak to the same people, go to the same places, day after day.  When we keep thinking and doing the same things, our world starts to shrink.  As our world begins to shrink, so do our confidence levels.

I know that it can feel easier to stay safely inside our comfort zone.   It’s a very tempting, cosy place to be.

I also know that when we challenge ourselves to do something different, it feels great and the positive effects can be long-lasting.

So, today I have set you a challenge.  Watch the video below and decide what action you are going to take this week to expand your comfort zone.

Don’t forget to comment below and let me know what step you will be taking outside your comfort zone.  I look forward to hearing what it’s like ‘out there’!

Five Steps to a Confident You!

19 Aug

http://www.dreamstime.com/-image7806283We all have days when we feel  a bit low, those days when it seems easier to crawl back under the covers and hide from the world.  These are the times when we need to connect with our inner confidence, that special something that gives us our sparkle back.

I know that it can sometimes feel like an impossible task to make that connection, but having these five steps to follow will empower you to feel confident and ready to take on the world again.

1) Find your own confidence talisman.   This should be something that represents confidence to you.  It might be a photo of someone you admire, a piece of jewellery or even a stone you can keep in your pocket.  When you need an extra boost of confidence, connect with your confidence talisman.  Look at it, wear it or feel it.  Let the confidence flow in to you.

2) If you were to feel confident, where would you hold your confidence in your body?  Just close your eyes and see what part of your body comes to mind.  Perhaps it’s your heart, your head, your stomach, whatever feels right for you.  Notice how confidence feels as a physical sensation.  Is it hot or cold, hard or soft?  Does it move or is it still?  Take some time to explore how you experience confidence physically.  Whenever you want to tap into your confidence, focus on the part of the body where you hold it and allow the feeling to grow and become strong.

3) Get in touch with the confident you.  Imagine how you would be if you were super-confident.  How would you dress?  How would you move?  What would you say?  What sort of thoughts would you have?  Allow yourself to imagine your most confident you and get excited about the possibility of being that way.  When you are going into a situation where you want to feel confident, connect with this part of you.  If you can imagine being this way, you can do it!

4) Realise it doesn’t have to be all or nothing.  Sometimes we label ourselves a particular way (or someone else might have done this for us!)  Perhaps we have adopted the label ‘shy’ or ‘introverted’ and we think there’s no way we can be confident at the same time – it’s like black and white thinking.  Just because sometimes you might feel shy doesn’t mean you can’t feel confident at other times.  I used to have the label ‘shy’ attached to me and thought there was no way I could stand up in front of people and talk.  I’ve come to realise that shyness is just one aspect of me and I also have a confident side.  Accept the possibility that you have many different qualities within you and confidence is certainly one of them.

5) Make a resolution to do one new thing every day to start expanding your comfort zone.  The possibilities are endless, like taking a new route to work, starting a conversation with the newsagent, taking an evening class or switching off the TV and doing something different. Have fun with them and know that with each new thing you are building your confidence.

If you start experimenting with these five steps, your confidence will start to grow naturally.   Start today and please do let me know how you get on!

This blog post is adapted from an article I wrote for Soul & Spirit Magazine.

 

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