Tag Archives: Hypnotherapy

Have you got the New Year Blues?

7 Jan

Crossroad on HillAs we move into a new year, I wonder how you are feeling?  It seems that everywhere on TV, in magazines and newspapers, we are being encouraged to make changes, feel positive and have our lives mapped out for the whole of 2014.  January can feel quite pressurised with all this talk of resolutions and ‘New Year, New You’.

I remember how I felt just five years ago when I was in a job I didn’t enjoy and had just gone back to work.  I felt heavy and, although I knew I didn’t want to carry on doing something I disliked, I wasn’t sure how to move forwards.  Rather than feeling positive and excited about the year ahead, I was totally confused!

I wonder if you feel the same?  Perhaps you are in a job you dislike?  Maybe you want to improve your health, but you’re not sure how?  Perhaps you just feel there is something not quite right in your life and you’re not sure exactly what it is?

In my case, back in January 2009, I had the spark of an idea – to retrain as a hypnotherapist.  I allowed that spark to grow and took action which ended up transforming my life in many ways.  I can’t say it was easy, but once I gained some clarity, I could see the path I wanted to take and I kept moving along it.

If you have even the smallest idea that you want to change paths, if you are fed-up with being where you are right now, then why don’t we have a chat?

I am offering free 45- minute discovery sessions this January – a chance to gently explore any changes you might want to make and find a way forward.   These sessions can be arranged either over the phone or at my therapy room in Southampton, whatever is easiest for you.  Contact me now if you would like to arrange one.

And remember, you don’t have to have your life planned out just because it’s January!  Change can happen at any time.

Three Common Misconceptions About Hypnotherapy

9 Sep

http://www.dreamstime.com/stock-image-time-now-2-image1543231When people come to me for hypnotherapy, they often have some anxiety about how it will be and I wonder whether perhaps you feel the same?

Maybe you have seen stage hypnotists who seem to take control of people getting them to do silly things and make fools of themselves?

Maybe you have heard stories of people going into a trance and not being able to come out?

Perhaps you have seen films where people have been hypnotised into doing things they wouldn’t dream of normally?  No wonder there can be some fear of hypnosis when it is often presented in this way!

It’s completely natural to have worries about trying something new, so I want to put your mind at rest now about some of the common misconceptions of hypnotherapy.

1) I’ll be out of control.

When you are in hypnosis, you are totally aware of what’s happening.   As a hypnotherapist, I cannot ‘make’ you do anything you don’t want to do.   That is why before we use hypnotherapy, I will spend some time making sure you are committed to the changes you want to make and exploring any unexpected benefits of staying the way you are.  Your subconscious mind has some powerful built-in safeguards and will not allow you to do something you wouldn’t ordinarily do or reveal anything that is not to your benefit.

During hypnotherapy you will be fully in control.   I am simply facilitating you in bringing your subconscious mind into alignment with your goals and dreams.

2) I can’t be hypnotised.

Clients often worry that they won’t be able to be hypnotised or that hypnotherapy won’t  work for them.   In fact, we move into a trance-like state naturally at many times during the day.   For example, if you have ever driven somewhere familiar, got to your destination and not remembered the journey, then you have experienced trance.  Similarly, when we daydream or switch off when watching TV, then we have gone into a light hypnotic trance.

Clients are often surprised about how familiar hypnosis feels to them and they worry that they are not ‘doing it right’.  The fact is that as a client, you can simply relax and allow me to guide you into hypnosis.  Your subconscious mind will do the rest.

3) Hypnotherapy will magically allow me to achieve my goals.

I’m sorry to say that this isn’t true!  Even though hypnotherapy is wonderfully effective in helping with many problems and issues, you do need to be committed to making changes.  When I work with clients, it is very much a two-way process.  I will often ask people to do ‘homework’ between sessions with the aim of giving the subconscious mind the focus and direction it needs.  I have found that it’s the clients who are most engaged in the process of working with me who get outstanding results.  So, ask yourself, ‘Do I really want to make this change and am I willing to do everything I need to do to reach my goal?’  If the answer is ‘Yes!’, then hypnotherapy will be perfect for you.

I hope this has answered some of your questions about hypnosis and how it can help you.  I know that there are many misconceptions about hypnotherapy and that is why I offer a free 30-minute consultation with any potential clients.  This is a chance to have a chat with me, ask any questions and discuss any worries you might have before committing to a session.

I am passionate about hypnotherapy and have seen wonderful results when working with clients, so if you want to find out more then get in touch today for your free consultation.

Hypnotherapy for Weight Loss

5 Aug

http://www.dreamstime.com/stock-photo-portrait-thoughtful-young-woman-kitchen-image29191340People are sometimes surprised that I do so much work with weight loss clients.  Wouldn’t a nutritionist or personal trainer be the most appropriate person to call on when you you want to lose weight?

Actually, until your mindset is in the right place, I’m afraid that anything you try to lose weight is going to be a struggle.

This is where hypnotherapy comes in.  When we work with hypnosis, we are working with that deep part of the mind, the subconscious, that influences our behaviour and decision-making.  If the subconscious is not in alignment with what we are trying to do for example, losing weight, then it can feel like we’re battling against ourselves.  This is when the weight loss process becomes REALLY hard work!

When I work with clients who want to lose weight, we use hypnotherapy to do three key things:

  • Let the subconscious mind know exactly what you want and how good it will be when you get there.  (This gives the subconscious the clear direction it needs).
  • Identify any unconscious blocks you might have in the form of past experiences or limiting beliefs, for example, the idea that you must ALWAYS clear your plate, or the belief that you won’t be able to maintain your ideal weight.
  • Find a way to lose weight that fits for you and is in alignment with the way you live your life.  (This means that the process feels natural and effortless, rather than frustrating and difficult).

By using hypnosis in the above ways, you can lose weight without dieting or depriving yourself.

So, rather than choosing hypnotherapy as a last resort, maybe it’s time to get your mindset in the right place and allow yourself to finally be the weight you want to be?  Contact me now to arrange your free 30-minute consultation and find out more.

What’s on Your Nurture List?

26 Apr

 Nature Image

When we think about losing weight, we tend to focus on diet and exercise – it’s what we’ve been conditioned to do. However, we can then become frustrated, as we find it difficult to actually eat healthily and be more active. It’s like something is stopping us from doing what we know we should be doing.

 The reason it can be difficult to stop overeating is that often we are using food to meet our emotional needs. In short, we are comfort eaters.

I’m sure that many of you recognise this in yourselves – you stop on the way home from a stressful day at work to buy some wine and chocolate or you come off an upsetting phone call with your partner and head straight for the ice-cream in the freezer. Food has become the friend we turn to when we feel stressed, sad, angry or fearful. In fact, pretty much any emotion can trigger off a need to overeat.

So, when we decide to lose weight and cut back on our eating, it’s like we’re being deprived of our closest friend, our biggest support. How is that going to work?

When we comfort eat, we are suppressing the emotion we are feeling, whatever that may be. We are putting a lid on it, rather than meeting the real emotional need. This is why, when I work with clients, we spend time looking at what’s happening for them when they get that urge to eat and they know they’re not physically hungry. Are they sad? Are they stressed? Are they angry? We then look at other ways of meeting that emotional need. It’s all about giving ourselves alternatives to overeating. Once the subconscious mind knows that there is another way, that it has some options, we find it easier to make healthier choices, meeting our true needs.

How can you do this for yourself? Well, I’d encourage you to take some time to think about the things you can do to help you feel more relaxed and uplifted in your life. Give yourself some space and make your own list of activities that nurture you. These can be as simple as having a cup of tea or running a bubble bath – find what feels right for you.

For me personally, I know that being outside in nature helps me to feel more grounded and peaceful. So, I make sure that I build time into my week when I can go for a walk or just sit in the garden. This morning, I took myself off to the forest to take some photos and felt such a sense of contentment and stillness. I know that if I don’t make time to do this, I will start to feel stressed and under pressure, so I’ve learned to plan regular ‘outdoor time’. This stops me from relying on the short-term fix of comfort eating.

So, create your own nurture list. Then start planning these activities into your week. Take positive action and start to truly meet your emotional needs. I guarantee you will find that you eat less and start to feel more balanced. I’d love to know what’s on your list, so please do share.

If you’d like to explore this in more detail, I am offering free weight loss clarity calls to three people next week. Contact me at nicola@horizon-hypnotherapy.com if you are interested.

 

Why Belief is a Weighty Issue

18 Apr

 http://www.dreamstime.com/royalty-free-stock-image-speedometer-yes-i-can-image10458306

When women come to see me for help with losing weight, it’s often as a last resort.  They have been on and off diets for years and it hasn’t worked. They know what they need to do to lose weight, but something is stopping them.

That ‘something’ is usually their own subconscious, that deep part of the mind that controls much of our decision-making and behaviour. When your subconscious isn’t in alignment with your conscious desires, it can feel like you’re battling against yourself – and that’s exhausting!

So, what can you do if it feels like you’re fighting a losing battle with your weight at the moment?

I often notice that when my clients first come to see me, they don’t truly believe they can be the weight they want to be. They know how they want to be, but when they focus on this, creeping doubts start to come in. Something deep inside says, ‘You can’t do that’, ‘You know you won’t be able to keep the weight off’, ‘Why bother?’ This lack of self-belief makes it really hard work to lose weight and maintain it.

I’d encourage you to just check in with yourself now – do you believe you can be the weight you want to be?

To do this, close your eyes and imagine yourself at your ideal weight. As you do that, just notice any thoughts or feelings that come to mind. Notice the kind of things you are saying to yourself – are the words encouraging and supportive, or are you being critical?

Once you have spent a few moments doing this, think about what came to you as you did that exercise. I really hope that you are full of self-belief and only had positive, encouraging thoughts, but I know from personal experience and working with clients that we can often be very hard on ourselves. We can be positive for a while and then those doubts and criticisms start to creep in.

The great thing is, once you start noticing any negative self-talk, you can start to do something about it. Once you become aware of those thoughts and feelings that have held you back in the past, you can start to work with them and change them.

You can create shifts in your mindset and build your self-belief.

This could be a key area where you have struggled in the past.  If you have strived to be a particular weight and not been able to get there, or you’ve reached your target weight and then slipped, it is probably because you don’t quite believe you can be the weight you want to be.

So, from now on, start paying attention to your internal dialogue, particularly in relation to food, eating and the way you see yourself. If you notice anything critical or negative, just catch yourself and change it.  Simply think of something more positive and encouraging to say to yourself and use those words.  So, when you are thinking about losing weight, if you notice a nagging voice comes to mind saying, ‘You can’t do that!’,  just choose to replace that with ‘I can lose weight and I am becoming the weight I want to be right now’.

It’s likely that you won’t catch all of the negativity, but even if you can start to shift some of it, this will make a powerful difference.

Make a decision now to grow your self-belief. I guarantee it will make a difference.

If you would like some extra support to create powerful changes in your minds  and be the weight you want to be, my Forever Weight Loss online program is starting on 24th April.  Click here for more details and to sign-up.

 

Page 1 of 612345...Last »