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Why Belief is a Weighty Issue

18 Apr

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When women come to see me for help with losing weight, it’s often as a last resort.  They have been on and off diets for years and it hasn’t worked. They know what they need to do to lose weight, but something is stopping them.

That ‘something’ is usually their own subconscious, that deep part of the mind that controls much of our decision-making and behaviour. When your subconscious isn’t in alignment with your conscious desires, it can feel like you’re battling against yourself – and that’s exhausting!

So, what can you do if it feels like you’re fighting a losing battle with your weight at the moment?

I often notice that when my clients first come to see me, they don’t truly believe they can be the weight they want to be. They know how they want to be, but when they focus on this, creeping doubts start to come in. Something deep inside says, ‘You can’t do that’, ‘You know you won’t be able to keep the weight off’, ‘Why bother?’ This lack of self-belief makes it really hard work to lose weight and maintain it.

I’d encourage you to just check in with yourself now – do you believe you can be the weight you want to be?

To do this, close your eyes and imagine yourself at your ideal weight. As you do that, just notice any thoughts or feelings that come to mind. Notice the kind of things you are saying to yourself – are the words encouraging and supportive, or are you being critical?

Once you have spent a few moments doing this, think about what came to you as you did that exercise. I really hope that you are full of self-belief and only had positive, encouraging thoughts, but I know from personal experience and working with clients that we can often be very hard on ourselves. We can be positive for a while and then those doubts and criticisms start to creep in.

The great thing is, once you start noticing any negative self-talk, you can start to do something about it. Once you become aware of those thoughts and feelings that have held you back in the past, you can start to work with them and change them.

You can create shifts in your mindset and build your self-belief.

This could be a key area where you have struggled in the past.  If you have strived to be a particular weight and not been able to get there, or you’ve reached your target weight and then slipped, it is probably because you don’t quite believe you can be the weight you want to be.

So, from now on, start paying attention to your internal dialogue, particularly in relation to food, eating and the way you see yourself. If you notice anything critical or negative, just catch yourself and change it.  Simply think of something more positive and encouraging to say to yourself and use those words.  So, when you are thinking about losing weight, if you notice a nagging voice comes to mind saying, ‘You can’t do that!’,  just choose to replace that with ‘I can lose weight and I am becoming the weight I want to be right now’.

It’s likely that you won’t catch all of the negativity, but even if you can start to shift some of it, this will make a powerful difference.

Make a decision now to grow your self-belief. I guarantee it will make a difference.

If you would like some extra support to create powerful changes in your minds  and be the weight you want to be, my Forever Weight Loss online program is starting on 24th April.  Click here for more details and to sign-up.

 

Christmas Weight Loss Tip – Nurture Yourself

3 Dec

This is the third of my special Christmas weight loss tips and it’s a wonderful way to help combat emotional eating.

My suggestion is to find one thing to do each day that nurtures you, something that is just for you and makes you feel good.  Some ideas are:

  • make yourself a cup of your favourite tea and take the time to drink it mindfully
  • run yourself a scented bath with candles
  • go for a walk in the park and feel the benefit of being outside in nature
  • book yourself a massage
  • take a yoga class
  • spend 20 minutes reading that book you’ve been meaning to

The list is endless!  Try and find something different each day that nurtures you.  By taking the time to do this, you will feel calmer and more balanced.  This means that there won’t be the need for emotional eating.  Your focus will be on looking after yourself.

The more you nurture yourself, the better you’ll feel!  Do let me know what nurtures you and we can all inspire each other to look ourselves in a healthier way.

 

26 Nov

Christmas Weight Loss Tip – Set Your Intention

19 Nov

 

After watching this video, I wanted to share some ideas with you on HOW to set your intention.

The first thing I would recommend is to write it down, take some time to write down what your intention is- how do you want to be, what are you doing to achieve this.  By writing it down, you are making a powerful declaration of your intention.  It can be helpful to write your intention on some post-it notes and stick them around your house, in your car, at your desk, anywhere you will see them to keep your focus.

The second way is to state your intention out loud to yourself.  Think of a sentence that encompasses your intention, for example, ‘I make healthy choices, eating only when I am hungry, letting the weight drop away’.  Make sure this sentence fits for you and say it to yourself as often as you can, when you get up in the morning, before any social occasions and last thing at night.

As a final way of setting your intention, find an object or image which represents what you want to achieve.  It could be a stone that you keep in your pocket, or a photo of you looking great.   Carry this object or image with you, or put it somewhere you can see it often.  Whenever you see this image or touch the object, you will be reminded of your intention, giving you strength and focus.

Choose one of these methods or use all three to get extra powerful results.

An Attitude of Gratitude

30 Oct

Most of the people who come to see me want to make some sort of change in their lives, maybe they want to lose weight, feel more confident or even have a baby.  This means that there is generally something they are currently unhappy with.  When we’re unhappy or dissatisfied with an element of our lives, we can get tied up with thinking about it constantly.  We can start obsessing with how overweight we are or the fact that we just can’t seem to get pregnant.  This kind of thinking can easily turn into a downward spiral and it can be difficult to see a way out.

When we’re thinking unhappy, fed-up thoughts, we tend to get more unhappy and more fed-up – it’s the way our minds operate!  So, I work with my clients to break that negative cycle and encourage them to start focusing on what they are happy with, to adopt an attitude of gratitude.  Maybe you’re not particularly happy with your body at the moment, but what are you grateful for in your life?  Perhaps you have a wonderful, supportive partner, or children who inspire you to be healthier?  How about all of the qualities you have that can help you on your way – your organisational skills, the way you motivate others, your attention to detail?  These are all things you can be grateful for and when we start to focus on feeling grateful, we automatically start to feel good!

Have you ever noticed that when you feel good, life is so much easier?  You have more energy, you can get things done and everything seems more enjoyable.  Well, by adopting an attitude to gratitude, you will be creating a shift in your mindset which makes it far easier to get what you want.

So, why not try it?  Start today and before you go to sleep tonight, think of three things you are grateful for.  Make this a bedtime ritual and I guarantee you will see a difference in your thinking.   Have a go and let me know how you get on.

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