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Five Steps to a Confident You!

19 Aug

http://www.dreamstime.com/-image7806283We all have days when we feel  a bit low, those days when it seems easier to crawl back under the covers and hide from the world.  These are the times when we need to connect with our inner confidence, that special something that gives us our sparkle back.

I know that it can sometimes feel like an impossible task to make that connection, but having these five steps to follow will empower you to feel confident and ready to take on the world again.

1) Find your own confidence talisman.   This should be something that represents confidence to you.  It might be a photo of someone you admire, a piece of jewellery or even a stone you can keep in your pocket.  When you need an extra boost of confidence, connect with your confidence talisman.  Look at it, wear it or feel it.  Let the confidence flow in to you.

2) If you were to feel confident, where would you hold your confidence in your body?  Just close your eyes and see what part of your body comes to mind.  Perhaps it’s your heart, your head, your stomach, whatever feels right for you.  Notice how confidence feels as a physical sensation.  Is it hot or cold, hard or soft?  Does it move or is it still?  Take some time to explore how you experience confidence physically.  Whenever you want to tap into your confidence, focus on the part of the body where you hold it and allow the feeling to grow and become strong.

3) Get in touch with the confident you.  Imagine how you would be if you were super-confident.  How would you dress?  How would you move?  What would you say?  What sort of thoughts would you have?  Allow yourself to imagine your most confident you and get excited about the possibility of being that way.  When you are going into a situation where you want to feel confident, connect with this part of you.  If you can imagine being this way, you can do it!

4) Realise it doesn’t have to be all or nothing.  Sometimes we label ourselves a particular way (or someone else might have done this for us!)  Perhaps we have adopted the label ‘shy’ or ‘introverted’ and we think there’s no way we can be confident at the same time – it’s like black and white thinking.  Just because sometimes you might feel shy doesn’t mean you can’t feel confident at other times.  I used to have the label ‘shy’ attached to me and thought there was no way I could stand up in front of people and talk.  I’ve come to realise that shyness is just one aspect of me and I also have a confident side.  Accept the possibility that you have many different qualities within you and confidence is certainly one of them.

5) Make a resolution to do one new thing every day to start expanding your comfort zone.  The possibilities are endless, like taking a new route to work, starting a conversation with the newsagent, taking an evening class or switching off the TV and doing something different. Have fun with them and know that with each new thing you are building your confidence.

If you start experimenting with these five steps, your confidence will start to grow naturally.   Start today and please do let me know how you get on!

This blog post is adapted from an article I wrote for Soul & Spirit Magazine.

 

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